One of my myspace friends by "SUMO:Oblivious"; made a blog one day directed towards young women that I thought kind of relates to some of the things that we talk about. She titled it "Dear Women." She talks about how young "Hmong girls" are testing the waters and not being good little girls. I think that what she is addressign is not only for the Hmong crowd put for women and to inform them that htey are already looked down upon because they are women and should step up and defend thier sex.
Here is a bit of what she wrote:
She writes: "I believe it is just sad how some young girls overexpose themselves in photos and post it up or whatever having no shame whatsoever. I see it disgraceful of a young girl to let themselves loose and let everyone see who they are. It is like that one Hmong saying, "Cia luag pom yus lub qes"."
She goes on to address this: "You are a Woman. Hardly anyone respects You because You were born with a freaking vagina or pussy like my sister has put it. Have a darn head to learn and act like a Normal human being. Most of all, at least have some Respect for yourself if no one does. Stand up for your name even when people stomp on you. Do not just make matters worst for yourself when situations are already at its worst. Stop being a blinded fool and act as if the world is yours. It's not, stupid. If you feel as if Life itself is too hard on you and that's the reason why you need to free yourself in that way...Face It. Life is freaking hard. That is why we live to fight through it."
"Just to put it Simple: As a Woman, have some shame and Respect. For society already looks down on us for not being Men. Especially you Hmong girls. Trust me. Don't make matters worst for yourselves."
In the sentence were she says in hmong "Cia luag pom yus lus qes" translates to "Letting others see your body." I took what she wrote as a plee or something of that nature to address the Hmong girls on the way the dress and acting in certain ways that are making them not look good to the older hmong people. It not only is for the Hmong women, it is for all women as well. She focuses on why women shouldn't degrade themselves because like she and her sister put it are already born with an disadvantage becuase they have a vagina. Being born into this world as a women you are already marginalized by society. One of her friends commented on what she wrote. Houa Thao wrote :"Truth had to come out some time :P Careful Hun people may hate you for this." And it is true, things like this are very sensitive and many people who agree or disagree with things like this are very contraversial.
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Sexualization of young girls of any ethnic background is sad. It's important to return to the question "Who does it serve?" If we're told that we need to compete sexually and need to be sexually overt to be a 'free woman' the hidden truth is that it's for the enjoyment of someone else - it's exploitation masked as expression.
ReplyDeleteControversy - isn't that what the Emperor's people wanted to avoid? Isn't avoiding controversy a means of silencing? Is it controversial to ask if dressing like prostitutes is a form of exploitation - does asking that make us the child in the story????
One of the quotes that struck me most was,"Have a darn head to look and act like a normal human being." This is a controversial and messy subject- especially to think about age.
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